Day 1. #30daybloggingchallenge

List 10 things that make you really happy.


It seems that today we talk about happiness. I think it fits the month of August since it is the less stressful one for me – and I think I am not the only one.

You see, I am an optimistic person. Finding ten things that make me happy should be a piece of cake… well, I actually had to think about the answer for several minutes. It seems I know, but wasn’t sure at first what could be put on this list.

1. Thunderstorms

Ha ha. I think many people hadn’t expected this one. Indeed, the scary thunderstorm that makes some shiver and hide in their beds is something that makes me really happy. I know it is dangerous, don’t get me wrong. But it’s something calming for me to see the lightening, to hear the thunders, the rain pouring heavily; I am always smiling and feel inspired when it’s raining. Many times I fall asleep on that sound.

However, as much as I enjoy it, and sometimes being in the middle of it if it’s safe (so not many times, as you might have already guessed), I don’t like when I have a busy day and it “stands” in my way. Not because it’s bothering, although that is partly true, but because I can’t give into the sensation, into admiring it properly.

2. Long walks

I have a driving license. And I haven’t realised how much I like long walks until a few years ago. I went to London, and it was one of the places I’ve always dreamt of visiting; that means I tried to see as much of it as I could, and I tried to have an authentic experience. So I bought a map and started to wander on the streets. Besides, if you ask me, the taxis were quite expensive – or maybe they tried to fool us since we were tourists and didn’t know which were the longest/shortest routes.

Since then I walk almost daily about ten kilometres. I am more interested in yoga and living in the present, so this pays an important role as well. When I walk, I look around (at nature, at people’s expressions, at the buildings) and I feel what’s around me (the solid ground beneath my feet, the air I inhale in my lungs, the singing of the birds, the warmth of the sun).

It makes me happy. The experience seems each time anew and still refreshing. It charges my batteries.

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August 30-Day Blogging Challenge

Hello, guys! How did you spend the month of July?

It was very busy for me. I had to pass certain exams at the end of June and in the middle of July, and that was why I had skipped posting on some days. As we may say: life happened.

However, everything turned out fine, and now I am enjoying the vacation, sipping on cocktails, taking long walks, reading books I didn’t get to read, as well as writing and blogging.

Because of this prolonged and unexpected pause, I thought I owed you one, so this is my payback: 30 days of blogging. Outside the regular posts I usually make, I want you to get to know me better, and this is exactly what these 30 days will do.

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How to Cope with Mean Comments

I promised you this post and here it is. Let me know what you do when you encounter this type of comments.

  1. Understand that they don’t define the quality of your writing

I think we all agree that feedback is very important. For writers, it’s almost vital. However, the feedback will tell you how to improve yourself whereas mean comments won’t. You should not let anyone tell you’re not worth something.

  1. Understand that art is subjective

Some individuals have a more aggressive way of expressing their opinions. They might not like your piece of work, but it’s alright. Art is subjective and the simple fact that yours didn’t let them indifferent is important.

You don’t like whatever you see or read, so don’t be a hypocrite and expect others to do it. Once you don’t have such expectations, your perspective on your writing career will change drastically.

  1. Don’t read them

If you are the type of person who gets angry or hurt easily, simply stop reading those comments or reviews. Usually, you can see whether or not the comment is going to be mean. If it starts inappropriately or gets so, stop. You don’t have to read the reviews of the people who didn’t put enough effort in trying to point out the problems in a polite way.

Reading them won’t do you any good.

Ghost of the Past

It’s dark outside,

And I should not be here,

But it clears my mind,

And it helps me get past my fear.

 

Your ghost haunts me

Like a merciless criminal,

It has a sadistic smile,

And tries to keep me near.

 

On the top of the cliff,

I feel invincible;

But the depths call me

And the ocean is here.

 

I think about jumping,

I doubt for a second,

In the heat of the moment,

I give into the atonement.

I Want To…

I want to touch you

If you let me;

To hold you tide,

To squeeze you hard,

To let my warmth cover you,

And shower your soul.

 

I want to kiss you

If you let me;

I will be gentle and delicate

Unless you want it otherwise,

I shall not rush you anywhere

As it wouldn’t be too wise.

 

I want to love you

If you let me;

With all I have

And all my might,

To give my soul as it’s

Your right to take it.

Criticism vs. Mean Comments

I am a writer. If you want to be one too, welcome in the club! Seriously, though, what was in your head?

Oh, keep calm, I’m just kidding.

I know – you adore writing, telling stories, and spreading emotion. I care, your fans care, but not everyone will care. Now that you’ve decided to follow this path, be prepared to be criticized and talked a lot of crap!

This post is born out of the frustration that some are not capable of creating anything, but they think it’s alright to tell you how to do your job. And I’m not talking about those who express a well-reasoned opinion which is not offensive at all. So, doing what I know best namely, -using my mood to create, not to destroy-, I decided that I should write about the difference between criticism and mean comments. In the future, I will also write a post about how you should cope with this last category.

Let’s start, shall we?

Criticism

According to the dictionary, the word criticism has the following meanings:

Criticism noun: criticism; plural noun: criticisms

  1. the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes.
  2. the analysis and judgement of the merits and faults of a literary or artistic work.”

In my opinion, criticism is not necessarily a bad thing. It means that your work has woken up something into the reader. However, I think that only certain persons are entitled to criticize. I think that persons with a vast literary experience and analysis capacity can actually proceed on commenting on a piece of work.

As a writer, you may or may not appreciate the critics’ opinions, but it can give you a better overall view regarding your art. Art is subjective; so even critics may not be on the same page when it comes to it. It’s fine, though.

But let’s face it. A critic will never tell you how you should’ve written. He just analyzes what you give him. A critic that respects himself should never, under any circumstance, judge the writer. In addition to this, he should not criticize the book on a subjective level. He has to take into consideration the structure, the coherence, the uniqueness, the dialogue, the description, the characterization etc.

Moreover, the critic brings to light both the faults and the merits. It’s not an easy job to be a critic. I admire the people who can do it right.

Critics’ opinions should be definitely read.

Still, not many books get into their hands. The most writers will confront with:

Mean comments

You’ll probably find them quite often. I get it that not everyone has to like a certain work, but the way he expresses his disapproval is very important. The “mean comments” are those who don’t bring rational reasons for disliking your work, or comment on it after reading only few lines or a chapter.

It has to be added that mean comments are, in essence, rude. They often consist of insults towards the work and the author. It’s funny, though, that in general, the persons who write this kind of comments did nothing in the field even if they have an expert air – or they think so.

Unfortunately, these comments don’t tell you anything about what you’ve done right. There’s no way you’ll find any praise in them.

These comments are the ones which may hurt your feelings or make you doubt yourself. Also, they are the ones which shouldn’t be taken into consideration. Unless one is capable of voicing his thoughts without being impolite, I am not interested in hearing them. I won’t offend him or judge him, so why should he do so to me?


Have you encountered lots of this so-called haters? What’s your opinion on the subject and how do you usually react?