How to Overcome the Fear of Failure

 

It’s in the human nature to be afraid. It is, as well, in human nature to beat ourselves up because of it. One of the most common fears on the Earth is the fear of failure. It’s totally understandable since the dreamer within refuses the possibility of failure, and its simple mention appears life-threatening.

I’m here to tell you that albeit it’s alright to have fears, you don’t necessarily have to live with them all your life. Just kick them out the door. If they come back, threw them on the window. If this doesn’t work, confront them with your bare hands. One way or another, they will die.

Now, I am not encouraging you to be violent or anything of that sort. Fears usually are due to our subconscious’ attempts are joking around and having fun with us. That’s why I came up with the following three rules which are applicable.

1.Take it as a part of the process!

I’ve also talked about it in an article published on My Trending Story (you might want to check it out, HERE). The moment you stop regarding failure as something abnormal which will pull you back, that moment your life will completely change. Believe it or not, it’s only about the mindset. The more you fear it, the more likely it is to happen.

Failure goes beyond being normal, it is needed. Yes, you read that right.

It’s defeat that teaches us how to succeed and accomplish our dreams. You can whine about it, but give it a try. Embrace failure. Let it kick your butt – if it’s behind you, it will soon pass. Besides, each of us could use a prompt forward. That kick will send you flying maybe, but not behind.

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Bored of Writing?!

Hello, guys! How’s your week going? I hope you like the posts on this blog.

Today I’m going to respond to a question that I’ve been asked a lot in my life, in particular by those who know me personally. The problem we’re talking about is: “Do you not get bored of writing?”

Till know, you might already know – and if you don’t, you’ll find out now – that I’m not only a blogger but also a writer. So I can see where this curiosity comes from. I write book, or blog posts or working as a freelancer in what concerns the writing sphere, and when I do none of that I usually read. My life revolves around words – whether literature or not.

(Mind you, I’m not that boring; I go out and have fun once in a while. Haha)

When people ask me this, I only tell them that I do not. I enjoy what I do, and I mean it. I fiercely adore what I do! No one forced me to write books or start a blog. It was my choice.

Writing is my passion.

I think that for those out there who don’t really know what it means to be so drawn to something that you cannot literally think about anything else I make no sense. For them, I seem to sink into literature; I’d rather say I dive into it. How could I ever get bored of something that make my life more beautiful, that makes it seem fuller? I couldn’t imagine myself doing anything else.

It’s like I have all these voices inside of my head that drive me to share their stories.

I do have writer’s block now and then, but I don’t let this affect me to the extent of not making me cease writing. If I don’t have an idea for the next chapter I find myself writing an article or some poetry, or fanfiction. Of course, I do other things like taking walks, dancing and chatting with friends, but that’s not what I want to pinpoint in this post. Since I’ve written my first novel, I haven’t once thought about quitting writing – and I’ve had my dark periods as anybody else. If anything those times made me a greater writer.

Boredom occurs when you do the same thing over and over again. Writing is different every time.

One chapter is not like the other. Each had its challenges and makes you struggle. But the satisfaction when you finished it is incommensurable. I would high-five myself every time I finish a chapter and tell myself I did a good job. It might not be my best chapter, but I managed to write it and it’s enough for me.

Writing is for persons who are determined.


Do you get easily bored of your hobbies or do you stick to it? Also, if you’re a blogger/writer – do you not get bored of writing?

Ideas for Instagram Posts

In the past I’ve talked to you about the importance of different social media platforms (you can find the article HERE) and why you should join them as a writer.

I don’t know about you, but when I started, they’ve got me confused – Instagram particularly. All my friends used it for selfies, landscape pictures or quotes. I wanted to use it to make myself know! You probably want it, too.

I admit: as it happened to many persons before me, I fell into the stereotype and post the sort of pictures mentioned above. But, I realised it and came up with some ideas. I want to share them with you because they’ve helped me as a writer.

Here’s a short list:

(since Instagram is all about pictures I’ll only say “with …”)

  • With poetry
  • With quotes from your book
  • With quotes from famous writers
  • With your sayings (Ah, I know you’re a little philosopher!)
  • With small scenes from your book
  • With the blurb
  • With a summary of your blog posts
  • With advice/motivation
  • With landscapes
  • With selfies/group pictures etc.
  • With your book covers

And don’t forget to use appropriate hashtags! I’ll also write a post in the future about the power of hashtags and which ones are the best for you. If you use Instagram, my username is rebecca_radd (HERE).

Did you like the list? Be sure to let me know in the comments below. If you have any suggestions I’d love to hear them!

Work for Your Dreams!

Hello, guys! Do you know what’s funny?

We all emphasise how much we want something, how we hope we’ll achieve our goals and dreams, but we rarely work for it.

Wanting will get you nowhere. Hoping isn’t enough.

Hard-work is what you need.

I get it, you might not have time or money to spend on your dreams, but if you want to make them come true, you better start getting rid of excuses.

Excuses are the nails used to build a house of failure. Don Wilder

You have to find a way if you want to make things work. No one will do it for you!

But I’m not all talk; I’ll use this post as an opportunity to tell you I’ve just enrolled in an online course on Future Learn, which is called Start Writing Fiction. A lovely course that is. I completed week one and it was a very interesting experience. Take for example one of the exercises: you have to write two pieces of 50-100 words, one consisting of three true facts and a fictional one, and the other consisting of three fictional facts and a true one. It sounds simple, but it’s harder when you sit down and think and try to come up with something.

I don’t know if you can still enrol to it, but I suggest you give it a chance. (HERE)

My point is: I don’t have any money right now and I definitely don’t have much time, but it doesn’t stop me from doing something to rich my goals. Regarding the literary domain, you can’t expect not to read or take some courses and became successful. I know you don’t want to hear it, but I’m not going to lie. There are enough sites who promise you’ll be the one!

I don’t deny you can be – and I do indeed hope you are going to be – but not if you don’t spend weekly some time  to improving yourself.

Read a specialised book, take some courses, connect with other writers, read poetry, keep a journal, read books for self-development but do something that helps you grow!

In this digital era, we seem to have stopped feeding out soul and mind – and we often poison both of them with poor entertainment sources. It’s too important to be forgotten.

Wake up! What have you done the past months for your dreams?

4 Ways to Advertise Your Book

Nowadays, it’s all about advertising. The field in which one works doesn’t matter very much. A good advertising campaign can make any product or service look then ten better than it really is.

Writers who go publishing the traditional way don’t have to worry about such trivial things. However, writers who choose the self-publishing path should consider putting a lot of effort into promoting themselves. Being unknown and without having their back protected by a publishing house are major decisive factors.

The advertising world is huge and a writer, when he begins his journey, can feel overwhelmed. I know it from experience. Unfortunately, I realised the importance of self-promoting after a year or so – and then I developed a strategy.

I want to share with you some of my tips on promoting yourselves. I hope you find them useful, and let me know if they work well for you. Also, in case you have other tricks, let the followers of this blog know by telling us in a comment.

  1. Be active on social media

That one was expected, I guess. However, notice that I said to be active. Having an account and posting a something when you remember won’t be enough. Also, don’t post only things related to your books. It will be boring, and you won’t be able to create your audience. The posts must vary according to the platform you use, and never ever post the exact same thing on all your social media accounts – only if it is a big announcement.

I suggest that you use many platforms, such as Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, Goodreads, LinkedIn (these would be the most important ones).

  1. Take advantage of special occasions (aka holidays, celebrations, birthdays)

You can shamelessly promote your book on special occasions such as Christmas or Easter. These events are the ones which urge people to buy gifts. What better way to say “I love you!” or “I care about you!” or “I wish you a relaxing time!” than offering a book? And I am sure your book is the perfect gift. You only have to find a way to not sound as if you force people or insist too much. Give them this option and tell them why it’s good.

  1. Post an excerpt

This one is tricky but is worth giving a shot. You can join a writing platform (Wattpad, for example) and post the first two chapters of your book. It will give your readers a taste of how the book would be and what’s your style. If they like it, they might not hesitate in buying it. But if they find the blurb interesting, but not the chapters, they won’t buy it, probably.

However, it’s nice to let them know what they’re getting themselves into. It shows your authenticity and you don’t wish to rob them of their money.

  1. Giveaways

Name one person that doesn’t love free stuff. Even more, name someone who doesn’t adore winning free things. There can’t possibly be a person like that. That’s the motive why you should, once in a while organise a giveaway. There are many platforms that can be used (I prefer Goodreads) and it will increase your audience. It will also show you’re generous and want to make your readers happy.

How to Correct Your Book Properly

As you know, I’ve always said that correcting your novel is not an easy job — it’s exhausting, boring, and it feels like wasting time, although it’s not.

Even though, let’s not forget this:

Everyone who edits their copy has a fool for an editor.

— Donald Davis

This comes to say: if it’s going hard, if you feel like you’re not doing a good job, you’re doing the best you can, and many (most) professional writer do have an editor. You might need to edit it more than once or twice and even ask other people about what’s their opinion (do they feel like there are plot gaps, irrelevant details, too many details) and then decide if you want or not to do something about it. It’s your book after all.

And never forget:

Different people have different tastes

It’s important that your book won’t appeal to everyone, but first of all, you have to like it. That’s what makes you authentic and invested in your work. You should like it. If, like the rest of us humans, you fear failure, I strongly suggest you read THIS post.

This is not the first time I touch upon the subject of editing, I shared a few different tips on how to edit your work before (HERE). However, I felt like I needed to deepen the subject; that’s why today I am going to speak only about the manner in which you can correct (from a grammatical point of view) your novel.

1. Use a specialised programme

Nowadays, technology eases our tasks and brings lots of benefits to our lives. Many programmes that aim to help the writers and bloggers around the world had been developed. Happily, there are also free versions of these. Although regarded with scepticism, they are very good. I’ve personally used Grammarly — the free version at first — which is easy to use and competent all the same. It might not find all the grammatical errors, but you’ll be surprised by it nevertheless. You can also choose whether you want to have the text corrected in the U.K. or U.S.A English. In addition to this, the program offers explanations for each correction. And you can also download the Microsoft Plug-in and this option is also available for Mac.

If you go for the paid version, there are even more features. Luckily, if you invite friends and they make an account, you both receive a free week of Premium Grammarly. Yay!

2. Get a beta reader

Beta readers don’t only tell you how can you improve your book overall. If you ask them, these persons can especially look after grammatical errors. This method is very nice because it helps you make friends and get to know people in this field. If you search thoroughly, you’ll find people willing to give a helping hand without expecting material benefits. These types of person can be usually found on different Facebook special dedicated pages or websites.

Warning: Be aware to whom you entrust your book. There are scammers and the so-called “bad people” who would/could steal your work. I would suggest doing a little research beforehand; that does not mean you should be paranoiac, just pay attention.

Besides, a beta reader can also give you his opinion regarding the book. If he or she can be integrated into the segment of the market you’re addressing to, his thoughts are very important when it comes to improving the quality of your work.

3. Contract an editor

If you want to take the self-publishing road and you have an amount of money at your disposition, you should consider contracting an editor. He’s a professional and a capable person with a vast experience in the domain. You can “steal” a few tricks and improve your writing in the future as well (just analyse the changes he makes/suggests). On top of that, the editor can be your connection to get to know other people in the field.

4. Don’t rush!

This one, I don’t think it comes as a surprise. However, I feel like I can’t stress it enough. Mostly, because I fell victim to this trap in the past, when I was a newbie (if you’re a newbie as well, I suggest you read THIS post). If you want to properly correct your book, you should be patient and not rush the process or the people you’re working with. Also, be open-minded and decide with your head whether you should or make a change, not with your heart — sometimes, pressing delete is very hard, but it’s also needed. Don’t be afraid to be merciless with your book. This is a good time to let listen to your inner critic a bit.

And also:

Avoid distractions

When you start editing, turn off your phone, don’t be the “I’m just going to check my mail once” or “just a quick look on Facebook/Twitter.” Although I’ve acknowledged the importance of music in the creative process (HERE), I advise you to keep it to a minimum.

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Don’t Be Shy!

You might have already published something or you might still be on your way… No matter the situation, congratulations! Not many have the courage to take this path. Today, I’m going to get a little personal and talk about why you should not be shy when it comes to admitting that you’re a writer or talk about your book.

Believe it or not, although I’m a sociable and brave person, when I had to talk about my work with someone whom I knew, I instantly froze. It was not that I was ashamed, but I found it strange to talk about myself as an author, a writer. It felt uncomfortable. Should I know the persons, things only got worse. I didn’t want my friends or acquaintances to think I’m changed only because I managed to get my book in the market. I was afraid of being judged…

Talking about my books was just as hard. People would usually ask me “What’s it about?”, and I had to summarise it in a few lines. They would then, because of my anxiety and the brief talk, regard me uncanny and change the subject. Inside my heart, I was craving for letting others know what made me write a certain scene, or why did I start the book in the first place, but I was shy. Looking back in time, it’s not a big surprise since I was a teen author. Who does take seriously a fourteen-years-old girl?

It took me more than ten months to convince myself I should be very proud and not let the situation overwhelm me.

If you confront with something similar, know that you’re not alone. I’m not going to lie to you, the path won’t be easy, but you can overcome this feeling! Don’t be shy!

If you’re a newbie and still work on your book, don’t be afraid. You’re stronger than you can imagine.

There is no real secret which I can share with you. Everyone has to win this fight with his own forces in his very own way. We are different and respond uniquely to experience, but that’s a good thing. I wish there was something, but it’s not.

Believe in yourself! Don’t be shy! Don’t let anyone put you down, because working on a novel or publishing one is a big deal!